Friday, January 6, 2012

Learning notes, 1/6/12

After spending a week keeping track of what we're accomplishing, I've decided to only record what happens before lunch so that I can have a more relaxed afternoon.  As you can see, plenty is happening just in the morning, and this is only what I happen to see/hear/participate in.  

Monday:
Today is the official holiday off for New Year's, so it's been a pretty laid back day.  It's Husband's last day home, so we're enjoying it.
  • QL went to the store with me, and we had a nice conversation about opportunity cost.  The toy she wants is $40.  I told her she could either save her money and buy it herself, or get it for her birthday instead of a hamster.  We talked about sacrificing one thing for another, and then we talked about which one she should choose: which one will she enjoy more?  Which one will she enjoy longer?  She went with the hamster.  Then we drove through and got a drink, which she squeezed too hard, and the lid popped off.  She said, "Man, I'm learning a lot today!  I learned about opportunity cost, and about squeezing cups to hard!"  : )
  •  JC started scooting today!
  •  Em started playing his new game on his VTech, and he played a DS game by himself.
  •  IW gathered 12 items from the backyard when I asked him to get 5!  I thanked him and told him that he had done more than what was expected of him, and that was honoring to Mom and Dad.
  • Husband showed the kids how to open and use Microsoft Word and Paint on the downstairs computer.  They took turns playing Mario Kart while the other typed notes of the outcome.  QL also typed her birthday wishlist.
  • QL and I talked about the difference between deciduous and coniferous trees.  Later I looked up the tree section of the Handbook of Nature Study and told her about tree sap and annual rings, and the purpose of leaves.
  • The kids watched Spy Kids 
  • We watched the Rose Bowl Parade, and talked about all the different flowers and floats.
  • The big kids talked to Grandpa and Grandma on the phone and told them what they got for Christmas.
  • QL and I talked about how many days there are in a year, and how those days are divided up into 12 months.
As you can probably tell, I spent most of my day with QL!

Tuesday:
  • the kids have spent most of the morning huddled around the downstairs computer, thinking of things to type.  This is IW's "new favorite thing".
  • the big kids played Spy Kids
  • We read a chapter from The Sword in the Tree.
  • we started our Little House in the Big Woods lapbook!
  • I showed Em his name in print
  • IW practiced writing his name in cursive.  He got very frustrated with his lack of instant perfection, so we made a plan to practice writing it 3 times a day for 2 weeks and see if there isn't some progress made. 
  • IW typed an email to Jarrett.  Lots of computer skills, spelling, and grammar were touched on.
  • QL and I made a rudimentary pop-up card.  Then she made one for each member of the family, and one for our neighbor who is having a baby.
  • Em practiced using a glue stick, he showed me how he could walk back and then forward, and helped me match socks.
  • the boys played outside
  • IW got out his play money and cash register, and doled out money to QL and me.


Wednesday:
  • IW worked on typing.
  • IW measured an entryway for me so we can order a gate for JC
  • IW read a book to JC while I read a book to Em.  Em is starting to participate when reading books.
  • IW and Em worked on building a fort out of JC's playmat.  They decided it was too small.
  • QL spent most of the morning in her room working on self-control
  • QL and IW both counted the money in their piggy banks and talked to each other about what they could buy with the amount of money they had, and how much they would need to save to buy the other things they wanted.  I helped QL identify coins and IW add the totals together.
  • QL sorted and organized her Star Wars trading cards
  • QL read one of Em's dinosaur books
  • I worked on addition flashcards with IW.  (This was the result of the rule, if you can't find something productive to do, I will find something for you.  Lesson learned.)
  • The kids made lists of stuff on the computer. 
  • Our lunch time conversation touched on why most things are made in China (IW wishes everything we used was made in the US), the invisible line around the middle of the Earth (equator), the logistics of traveling with 19 kids and 2 adults, and where last names originate.  There is a very small town in Germany that shares our (long and uncommon) last name, so that really helped me in this discussion! Oh, and QL asked if we could put cut celery in colored water again like we did last year and see what happens.

Thursday:
  • This morning turned out to be a huge battle of the wills between IW and me.  He is spending the ENTIRE day in his room on his bunk.  
  • QL and Em spent the morning outside playing together.
  • Em is spending some time playing Starfall.
  • QL is painting.  I helped her get the supplies out and pretty much left her to it.  She's using a paint knife, fan brush and stipple brush for the first time.  Since she's using my brushes and not the cheap kid brushes, I did show her how to clean them.
Friday:
  • I tried to do yoga this morning, but I only got about 5 minutes in.  QL and Em came in to join/take over.  Over breakfast QL asked why I do yoga, and I explained to her, with the use of a rubber band, how muscles can get tight and then can't do their job very well, and that yoga helps stretch them out and make them looser again.  IW got a kink in his neck yesterday, and when he came in, QL explained to him (with the rubber band) that his muscle was too tight. : )
  • IW told me all about what to do if you're outside in a thunderstorm (which he learned while reading our new Dr. Suess book while he spent the day on his bed yesterday.).
  • QL read the new Dr. Suess book to IW again while he sat alternating heat and ice packs on his neck.
  • Our homeschool group is having a park day today, so that's the plan for the afternoon.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Books bought in 2012

Sooooo, 3 new books came in the mail today, and I know I've got more coming.  I've decided that keeping track of the books I buy this year will be a good idea for two reasons.
  1. To see how many of them we actually read.
  2. To see how many books I buy (and how much money I spend on them).
The ones that came today are

This one actually came from PaperbackSwap.com, so I didn't have to pay for it.


 


I've also bought several books for my Kindle lately.  Don't judge me.  As I'm sure these lists will prove, I buy books in bursts, depending on what my interests are and what's going on around our home.  I also usually search the library first.  Unfortunately our local library doesn't have a lot in the way of homeschooling/unschooling books.  And some books are just cheaper to own than to keep paying late fees for.  : )
I already feel like this is a really good idea.  I've already bought enough books to last me a few months, which I wouldn't have realized had I not listed them out.

Kindle books bought recently:


One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are








Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling










Lead. Serve. Love.: 100 Three-Word Ways to Live Like Jesus










Unconditional Parenting










Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes










The Unschooling Handbook: How to Use the Whole World As Your Child's Classroom (Prima Home Learning Library)










Teach Your Own: The John Holt Book Of Homeschooling










Shepherding a Child's Heart










Instructing a Child's Heart

















working on a new routine

After having such a relaxing month of December, I figure now is a great time to work on adding a bit of routine back into our day.  2011 came and went without much of any routine.  I guess that's what happens when a new pregnancy and baby join the family.  While I really have no desire to live my life according to a strict schedule (that's one of the benefits of homeschooling, no?), we all thrive on the rhythms of a routine.  And I have to remind myself of that; a routine merely means knowing what comes next.  It's not rigid.  It's not demanding.  Rigid and demanding just don't work in this house that consists of mostly-single parenting and tiny people.

I think for the sake of stick-to-it-ivensess I will first think about WHY a better routine would benefit our family.

  • I think that bad behaviors and attitudes will improve with a routine.  Knowing what comes next will (hopefully) decrease complaints and arguments, which is my #1 issue with the tiny people right now.
  • Em needs to be included in the mix more.  He hasn't really been added to the morning chore routine, and he is fully capable of understanding that we do certain things every single morning, like get dressed after breakfast and brush our teeth.  Sometimes this doesn't happen until afternoon with him.
  • JC is on no routine whatsoever.  This has actually worked great for us, but I would like to purpose to spend time just focusing on her.  Because she is such an easy baby, and the older kids are so demanding of my time and energy, I feel like I don't hold/love/snuggle her as much as I want to. 
  • A routine will help me feel less frazzled.
  • A better chore routine will have the kids helping me more, so we have more time to enjoy each other, and they will also learn important character lessons.
  • Having a regular routine in place will help ease the transitions when Husband is home.  If we know what comes next it will be easier for him to jump in the mix and not feel like he's outside looking in.
Next, I'll focus on what has and hasn't worked, so I'm not reinventing the wheel.

Chores
What has worked:  Having a list of chores that need to be done for the day, and letting the kids take turns choosing which ones they'd like to do.  (These are on top of their regular daily morning chores.)  They have some say in what they do, and don't usually have to do the same chore over and over unless they like to do it.
What hasn't worked:  Chore Paks.  Although we do still call our morning chores Chore Paks. (get dressed, make your bed, brush your teeth, and then two tidy-up type chores each)  I bought the Managers of Your Chores Book, and I like the idea of it.  The problem is, being here alone with the kids and having a baby and the preschooler in the mix, I'm not always able to consistently check the Chore Paks, which is the key to success.  I also found myself feeling like a drill sergeant.  I would prefer to have a more cooperative feel when it comes to chores.  We are all working together for the same goal here.  And while there are times when I have to wear my bossy pants, I'd like us to live here together as a team.

Daily Rhythyms

What has worked:  The kids know that we eat breakfast, then we do our morning Chore Paks.   We used to have a quiet time EVERY SINGLE DAY after lunch.  Em used to nap during this time and the big kids would rest/read/play quietly. For a while they listened to an audio book, though IW was not a big fan of this.  Meal times have always been pretty routine, and evenings have always had a pretty good flow to them.  Reading with the kids, both individually and as a group, before bed has always been a winner.  I especially like individually, though it takes up A LOT more time.

What hasn't worked:  Well, this is a broad area.  Pretty much anything I haven't been consistent on.  Having a new baby in the house has had a lot to do with that, so I'm trying to cut myself some slack.
I do think that TV has made it's way more and more into our evenings as the kids have gotten older.  Unfortunately, this has changed how we handle evenings with our littlest guys, which I don't really like.  Something to address there.
The kids going and staying downstairs by themselves.  Too much time without an adult around leads to bad choices and bickering and arguing.

Academic Rhythyms

What has worked:  Taking a relaxed approach.  Letting them learn without the label "school" on it (especially IW).  Lots of hands on, and lots of learning through our travels.  Learning through read alouds.  Learning through educational shows and games.  Answering their questions when I can, and helping them find the answers when I can't. 

What hasn't worked:  Being especially "schooly".  If IW feels like I'm forcing him to do something, he resists it the whole time.  If he feels like we're learning something together, it suddenly becomes fun.  I think it's a pressure to perform thing.  I think I contribute to this as well.  If I feel like I have to teach them something, there is a certain pressure (on me to do it right, on them to learn it), but if we're discovering things together, the pressure is off.
Trying to be too rigid.  This just sets us all up for failure, and for being miserable.  This is a home, not a school (meaning the institution).  This is my life, not my job.   Theirs too. 

I think I'll chew on this for a few days, and then hopefully have a new set of routine goals to work off of.




Monday, January 2, 2012

Goals for 2012

I've learned the hard way that making a long list of resolutions at the beginning of the year just doesn't work for me.  That being said, I do think that setting a few goals at any point is a good idea.  There is a possibility of some pretty big changes in store for our family in the coming months, so I'm trying to keep that in mind moving forward.  Flexibility is not my strongest attribute! : )

Goals for myself:
  • to get  back to exercising on a regular basis
  • to get back to getting up before the kids, and doing my bible study
  • have a garage sale in the spring, getting rid of everything that doesn't have a purpose or bring happiness
  • read more for fun
  • spend more time learning for myself
  • be braver.  There are so many things that I don't even attempt to do b/c I don't know what I'm doing, or I'm afraid that I won't do it well.  This permeates every area of my life.  This is not the example I want to set for my children (especially my perfectionist IW), and I don't want to wallow in regrets when I'm old and wrinkly.
Goals for the family:
  • to explore fun things locally (ie, state parks, museums, zoos, etc.)
  • to spend more time playing games, instead of watching tv, Wii, DS, etc.
As far as academic goals, I feel pretty comfortable with where the kids are.  The only subjects we're doing formally are math and handwriting practice.  I also have the kids read to me a little every day.  Everything else we learn is through literature, documentaries, YouTube, Google......  I know that they are either on or above level in all areas, so I don't really feel it necessary to make them sit at the table and do formal work at this age.  They're learning all the time.  I also feel like hope that the more the kids see me reading and pursuing knowledge because I enjoy it, the more they will do the same.
The one area that I do want to do a little more "formal" study in is character development.  I'm working on a plan for that, and when I figure out what I'm going to do, I'll post about it.


Sunday, January 1, 2012

2011 in Review

Happy New Year!!!  I can't believe it's been over a year since I've been on here. : (
Of course, with the end of the year I've been looking back at what we've done, and contemplating the year ahead.  I am a little bummed that I don't have anything recorded here to look back on.  So with that in mind, I'm going to do my best to make a list, in no particular order, of what 2011 looked like for us.  And I'm going to recommit to keeping track of what we have going on around here, so I can look back, for my kids' sakes.

2011, in review:
  • January 2011 saw me entering my 2nd trimester.  (Yup that's right, we added our 4th bundle in 2011, and let me just say that she is a keeper!) Husband was working out of state, and I was SICK.  Needless to say, routines, including homeschool ones, fell to the wayside.  That's not to say that the kids didn't learn anything, they just did it more or less on their own, based on what they were interested in.
  • the kids came with me to what seems like hundreds of doctors appointments.  We learned lessons in patience and respecting other people.  I learned a whole lot about preparation and planning.
  • We had our first major medical scare.....which looking back on it now doesn't seem very major, but at the time, HOLY MOSES.  IW was having some weird neurological symptoms, Husband was still working out of town, and I was early pregnant and sick.  I ended up taking him for a head CT and an EEG, or maybe it was an EKG.  Either way, that was the point that my anxiety took on a life of its own, and didn't go to it's grave for many, many months.  In the end, they never found anything wrong with IW, and the symptoms kind of resolved themselves.  Oddly, 10 months later, I experienced very similar symptoms. (I knew enough from our experience with IW to not freak out, but it also helped confirm that he hadn't imagined it.)
  • IW and QL both lost their first teeth!
  • IW had kindergarten graduation!!!  It felt a little strange since we don't really do "official" formal curriculum, but I am so glad we did it, and QL is looking forward to her turn!
  • Em potty trained, and I am excited to say that today he has very few accidents!!  Hooray!
  • IW and QL both learned to tie their own shoes, about 6 months apart. 
  • IW played baseball, and QL played T-ball, both through the city.  So cute, and SO CRAZY.  Again, Husband was out of town, I was pregnant and toting 3 kids all over the place to get to practices 2-3 times per week per kid at different times.  It was fun, but there was definitely a life lesson learned there.  No matter how much other people (read: family members) think that my kids will be somehow stunted if they don't play sports at these tender ages, don't put myself through hell to do it.
  • In the fall, IW played Upward flag football, and QL cheered.  This was so much more manageable!  Husband was actually in state, though still not in town.  But he was home nearly every weekend.  Upward was every Saturday, and only on Saturday, and they both met at the same time and on the same field!  I think this program was created by someone who had more than 2.5 children!
  • We had a garden!  Some of it was successful, most of it was not : )  We grew: tomatoes (which barely survived the 3 year old who learned how to pick things off plants, and the horn worms.  I didn't even know what horn worms were before last year, so that's knowledge gained!), squash (we only got 3 or 4 of these before the blossom end-rot took over.  We learned about calcium in soil, and the consequences of over-watering and over-planting.), watermelon (not a single melon to be harvested, blossom end-rot also to blame.), green and red bell peppers (these did very well, and produced all summer and fall!), and sweet potatoes (which also did VERY well.  The kids actually dug up several more potatoes last night!)  
  • In July, we welcomed our Sweet Josie Carol, who after this will be known as JC!  Her delivery was my second longest, and maybe my hardest.  She was induced at 39 weeks, and was a whopping 9 lbs!  She is the most joyful, happy, easy baby EVER!  I was very nervous, and prayed throughout my pregnancy for a happy baby (Em was colicky until 7 months, and didn't sleep through the night until 9 months), and God is so faithful!  JC has slept through the night consistently since she was 3 weeks old, and is only fussy when she's cutting a tooth (she has 2!) or after shots.  She has brought so much happiness to every one of us in this family, and I finally feel like we're all here.  Our family has been completed!

 


There are no pictures of Em because JC didn't really exist to him for a while, and we didn't push her on him.


  • Husband turned 30!  His family was here and it was nice to take time out to celebrate him for a change!
  • We went to Chattanooga on a little family vacation last March, partly to celebrate QL's 5th birthday, and partly because Husband was back on this side of the country and we needed to spend some time just being a family.  It was AMAZING, and I hope we do a little family trip like that every year.  We rented a little house sitting on a creek, kind of in the country, but just a few miles from civilization.  We went to the Aquarium, which was fun, but we probably shouldn't have gone so close to our trip to Sea World.  We also went to a stable down the road from the house that welcomed visitors.  IW and QL got to sit on a horse and ride around for a bit, feed horses grass, and watch a rider practice her jumps.  This was an impromptu visit, and was one of our favorite parts of the trip!
  • We went to Colorado this December with Husband's family for vacation.  It was so awesome!  The kids got to spend quality time with their aunts and uncle, grandparents, and cousins.  They formed friendships, and we made some great memories.  We also learned that driving from Alabama to Colorado with 4 kids, while not intolerable, isn't really all that enjoyable.  Thankfully our kids have a lot of experience with road trips.  All the same, next time we fly, or I'll be staying a little closer to home.

  • We rescued an abandoned puppy from our neighborhood.  He is still here, but I don't know for how long.  We really don't need another dog, but the poor guy likely would have died had we not stepped in.  I'm hoping that my kids will learn some important character lessons through this experience.  I also hope I can put on my grown up pants and do what needs to be done when it's time to find this guy a new family.
Okay.  I hope to come back and add more as I remember.  I plan to be more diligent in 2012 to preserve our memories.  Resolution made.  Here are a few more of my favorite pictures from this past month.  It was a good, good month!



This one is from last night.  Happy New Years!